I have been involved in many discussions about “Foster Care” versus “Adoption” (in and out of the US) and my standard answer has been, “Every child deserves a loving home.” It usually ends there as each person has different experiences and expectations about how they want their family to form and to what extent they are willing to go. Since May is National Foster Care Month, I thought I would once again bring this topic up before the month closes out. I have written about Foster Care several times in the past (you can dig through my archives to find them – search bar) as this is something very near and dear to us as this is the route we chose to complete our family.
Long story short…when hubby and I met over 20 years ago, we discussed adoption possibilities before we even tied the knot. Fast forward to having son #1 and meeting an amazing friend (who had a son at the same time) who was fortunate to have been raised with great Foster parents and we knew then, that it was our calling. Our Princess (now almost 13) completed our family after we took the fost-adopt route. We had two boys and we were blessed to complete the Perry Bunch with our Princess. She walked in our door at 16 months and we all fell in love with her immediately. It took a year to make the adoption final – and we were so blessed things worked out the way they did. The Perry family was now complete with 3 wonderful children.
My favorite story is when I ran into an elderly woman who inquired whether she was “mine.” I answered that she now was and we were very lucky to have her. She told me her story about having birth children and fost-adopt children. She said it was hard not to love the fost-adopt ones a little more as they were extra special.
I just want to add, that there are no guarantees whether you give birth or adopt on how that child will turn out – period. I truly love all three of my children equally as they are all so unique. I may pull my hair out from time to time as having 2 teen boys and an almost teen girl is certainly a challenge. But at the end of the day – those three children and my husband are the most important things in the world to me! I am the luckiest girl in the world and I know it!